Updated: Dec 30, 2020
I’ve been married since 2011. Before that I was a nightclub promoter for 10 years. Needless to say, getting married was going to be a big battle for me since I’d been living an entire decade around a culture where having tons of girls that are friends was the name of the game.
The other day I had a co-worker come into the office to knock out important work. She’s amazing, a really hard worker and extremely smart.
Lunch time came around and neither of us brought lunch. We had to go grab somewhere.
I immidiately remember that I had committed to “set boundaries” around lunches with women. What if my wife or friends would see me out? They don’t know she’s my co-worker.
So I grabbed my partner and the 3 of us went to lunch.
We don’t all have the same past I had, but we all have the same enemy around us that wants to destroy our relationships.
We might not think it can happen to us, so we’re reluctant to set the same boundaries for our self. Now, that does not necessarily mean that by not setting boundaries our intention is to cross a line with the opposite sex. Usually it means that we have a false sense of our own capability to handle any situation at any time the way it needs to be handled.
My experience as an entrepreneur says you are playing with fire. Any time we think that we are not vulnerable, we are fooling ourselves. All of us are vulnerable and I am including myself in this.
The bible says
"Indeed, there is not a righteous man on earth who always does good and who never sins." ECCLESIASTES 7:20 AMP
For me, acknowledging my vulnerability is a smart move. Now I can set the boundaries in place that not only will keep me from crossing the line but will keep me far away from that line in the first place.