Updated: Jan 26, 2021
I’m addicted to my cell phone. If I’m in the car, waiting for the doctor, in line at the grocery store, or during TV commercials, I’m checking my phone.
I’ve created a whole bunch of ‘triggers’ in my life that are associated with me checking my cell phone. At this point I have no control over this habit. That’s scary! Especially while I’m driving! It’s terrible.
Checking our cell phones is pretty harmless (unless we’re driving), but what if the thing we turned to was much more serious. The same way we turn to our phones when we hit a trigger, we turn to work when we hit other triggers.
Have you ever found yourself in a situation in your business where you felt out of control so you turn to working more?
We entrepreneurs have many things that trigger our sense to need to do more! We turn to many things to relieve that stress. But what are those triggers? What are those things we turn towards? What brings us comfort? Do we even know and fully understand this?.
The Bible says
“Watch and pray so that you will not fall into temptation. The spirit is willing, but the flesh is weak.” Matthew 26:41 NIV
I believe this bible verse had the two steps to help us identify and overcome the triggers of our work addiction. I like the watch and pray parts. Those are 2 actionable steps.
We must know and understand these triggers. Watch out for them. Avoid them. If debt is a trigger, then you need to focus on getting our of debt. If marital problems are the trigger, then focus on doing the little things in your marriage to make it right. If clients send you into a stressful situation, then dump the bad clients.
Let’s point out some potential triggers that send us back into work mode
Bank account low
Sales numbers down
Launch went wrong
Conflict with client, vendor, employee, or contractor
Competition envy: seeing them win a contract or launch a new service
Nothing better to do at home
Thinking of your long to do list
Our addiction to working has 4 major parts
Trigger – the situation that triggers you to want to work
Role – work promises to escape, relive or fix that stressful situation
Object – the ‘gring mode’ that we turn to instead of God to meet our needs in the moment
Goal – comfort, because we don’t like feeling the pressure or stresses that triggered us to work
So now that we know and understand these triggers that send us into work mode, how do we break the cypher?
The second part of that bible verse, Jesus has us pray.
What does it cost you to associate a stressful trigger to a quick little prayer? Maybe at first it will see disingenuous because you know that immediately following the prayer you’re still going to fall into the addiction. But over time, any small prayers in sincerity start to have an effect over the work addiction and you’ll catch yourself sooner or get yourself our of grind mode faster.