How to Condescend … In a Godly Way

Updated: Aug 6, 2021

The Gospel’s Clash With Culture’s Radical Egalitarianism

God says interesting things. He never takes one side or the other … it’s always about bringing both sides into unity through Him.

One of the strangest things that grabbed me recently was this verse from Romans 12:16:

“Mind not high things, but condescend to men of low estate.”

What?! “Condescend” is a terrible word in 21st Century Western society. Just read this grotesque definition from Webster’s:

1. Show feelings of superiority; be patronizing.

2. Do something in a haughty way, as though it is below one’s dignity or level of importance.”

The mere thought of it makes me uncomfortable. God is telling us to act like pompous, arrogant know-it-alls? This isn’t going to sit well with the grievance industrial complex.

I foresee lawsuits and a Twitterstorm of self-righteous indignation. If this is what Paul actually meant, we have a case where Scripture contradicts itself.

But Scripture never contradicts itself.

Yeshua also told us, “Do not cast your pearls before swine.” Did he mean to say that “some men are pigs, and others are not”?

No, because elsewhere He spends entire sermons telling us that no one is excluded from salvation through faith in Him.

Just so, there is a context and a framework for us to apply to this command. We must discover what it is.

Why “Equality” of Outcomes Is a Myth

One look at nature ought to tell you our Father’s attitude concerning equal outcomes.

Eagles enjoy the freedom of flight, and wield the power of tremendously good eyesight. They can spot a rodent scurrying across the floor of the forest, from hundreds of feet in the air.

But that same bird, hunted by the fowler, would give anything for the gills of a lanternfish, to hide underwater and avoid the bullet of a rifle. His gifts are only eclipsed by his limitations.

This would be easier to accept if some human beings could fly, while others could live underwater. But on the surface, we appear to have little difference in needs, from one person to the next. Air, water, food, shelter, elimination, reproduction - on that level, it’s standard formula.

Only when we perceive ourselves correctly - as spiritual beings with physical bodies - that our differences and variety become clear. I’ve met people of tremendous gifting in certain areas … and been blown away when they’ve told me, “I wish I had your skill with language.”

On my podcast, Influencer Networking Secrets, I’ve spent the last two years interviewing the most brilliant minds I can find, including some very recognizable names in the Kingdom of God.

You’d be shocked to learn of the opportunities it’s afforded me, because of the things people sense in me. I can’t perceive what they find so valuable; I’m just being myself. But it doesn’t matter … what’s important is how they feel when we interact.

They feel the same as I do, listening to them … “This person has such a depth of knowledge” … “This lady projects warmth and enthusiasm like no one else” … “This guy could kill you as soon as look at you” … “She is an irresistible force” and so on.

Spiritually, we are incredibly different. Uniquely gifted, and uniquely limited. Forged and influenced by our heritage, background, ancestry, upbringing, education, surroundings, tribes and experience. There are too many variables.

That’s why it’s such a thrill to discover that rare person who thinks the same way you do … at least until you learn that in some ways, they think differently.

How To Condescend In a Godly Way