I find it hard to say no to people. Maybe I’m a people-pleaser. Maybe it’s because I avoid conflict and I see the word ‘no’ as conflictual.
I wish I did say no more often, I could probably avoid a lot of situations where I felt obligation and confinement to something I really shouldn’t have said yes to in the first place.
It has happened to me with hiring employees. Instead of making decisions based on prayer and just looking at the hard facts, I let my impatience get the best of me and I hire someone that wasn’t really the right fit. Now I’m deep in a relationship I can’t get out of because of my proclivity to avoid conflict. I’m trapped.
It happens with vendors, contractors, and clients too. My inability to wait will bring bondage, blindness, and confinement.
When we refuse to wait on the Lord in our business we can find ourselves in terrible business deals, being bound and subjected to people’s demands that are outside of your ‘born to do identity’, and bound to the control of those you do business with.
The Bible says:
Be alert and of sober mind. Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour. (1 Peter 5:8 NIV)
In other words, the enemy studies us, he sits and is very patient to watch our every move, and once he figures out our weakness then he plots our downfall. The problem comes in when we believe we are so strong we don’t need to take precautions for our weak areas.
This reminds me of Sampson from the Bible. He had a great calling over his life. From before birth, God had separated him out for greatness. It was to defend and protect his nation from the Philistines – (Judges 3:5).
But he had a weakness: women. Her name was Delilah, and he broke his families covenant just to be with her. Ultimately, she betrayed him and he lost his entire identity.
Delilah wasn’t the problem though. The women revealed his internal problem: impatience to the bigger plans God had for him. He ended up bling, bald and in jail because he just couldn’t say ‘NO’.
Sampson epitomizes the dual sides of us as Godpreneurs; we can be very strong in some areas of our businesses and at the same time have a deadly weakness.
What is your weakness in business? What do you have a hard time saying NO to? Who or what are you always saying YES to, even though it’s not a perfect situation?
Here are some examples of things that have gotten me “jailed” at times:
- A product launching too soon
- A contract that’s out of your zone of genius
- A joint venture with someone I don’t like, know, or trust
- Doing a ‘favor’ for someone
Even though Sampson’s hair grew back and he eventually defeated the enemy it also cost him his life.
I encourage you to weigh carefully what hangs in the balance during your “waiting” process in business and trust God to come through for you.
A Godpreneur’s patience is his greatest weapon against the enemy seeking to destroy your business.