I’m married. But I was a single entrepreneur before, so I can speak as to the “before and after” of having a business while single versus being married.
I’m writing this because I have single entrepreneur friends that look at me with envy and think “man, I wish I was married. If I was married, I think my business would do better.”
I’m also writing this because I have married friends that tell me they would be so much more focused and driven if they didn’t have a wife nagging everyday about how they feel neglected because they care so much about the business.
I’ll just start by saying that neither is better or worse. They are simply a season of your life. If God is present throughout all seasons of my life, then each season has its glory (and challenges).
Single entrepreneurs…whoever told you or whatever thoughts crept into your head thay “I can’t be successful and happy unless I’m married” is simply false.
Think you have to be married to be whole and happy in business? Get this: Paul spends the whole chapter of 1 Corinthians 7 convincing people not to get married.
Now for the matters you wrote about:
“It is good for a man not to have sexual relations with a woman.” … I wish that all men were as I am [Paul was single]. But each of you has your own gift from God; one has this gift, another has that. Now to the unmarried and the widows I say: It is good for them to stay unmarried… I would like you to be free from concern. An unmarried man is concerned about the Lord’s affairs – how he can please the Lord. But a married man is concerned about the affairs of this world – how he can please his wife – and his interests are divided. An unmarried woman or virgin is concerned about the Lord’s affairs: Her aim is to be devoted to the Lord in both body and spirit. But a married woman is concerned about the affairs of this world – how she can please her husband. I am saying this for your own good, not to restrict you, but that you may live in a right way in undivided devotion to the Lord. —1 Corinthians 7:1-1, 7-8, 32-35
Do you believe you can’t have a successful business unless you’re married? The truth is this: Singleness is either a gift to cherish or a season to enjoy.
And for my married entrepreneurs…. Listen.
The loneliest entrepreneurs I know are not single. The loneliest business people are people I know trapped in a bad marriage. Marriage is not the happiness pill a lot of people think it is. If I want to be happy in business while I’m married, everyday I must remind myself that true joy and fulfillment are found only in Christ.
Marriage isn’t meant to make me happy in business, it’s meant to make me holy for the marketplace.
God’s word says, “in Your presence there is fullness of joy.” Lay claim to that truth right here, right now, no matter if you’re single or married, happy or discontent.
Married or single, all of us entrepreneurs should turn our hearts towards God as our source of true fulfillment – filling each of us until we’re full – in “need” of nothing else.